My best friend told me this the other day and I had an epiphany. When I get with my friends, somehow we always end up talking about guys. Despite the amount of guy bashing posts I have I really don’t believe that all guys are trash… just most of them. ok just a few.
What is in our DNA that makes us attracted to f**kboys, especially when all the signs are there in the beginning! Sis, you can’t run around with SZA yelling “why you bother me when you know you don’t want me” when you steadily text him back even when he doesn’t respond to you but has time to snap about an unfulfilling lunch. How about we change up the script a bit and put more effort into the guy that has the qualities you desire from the beginning.
I don’t want to hear anything about how opposites attract, naw fam it don’t work that way. Your positive goal getter attitude should not attract a guy who doesn’t have any respect for you. The thrill that comes with dating a bad boy usually ends with you at the bottom of a Moscato (insert your fav drink) bottle talking about how “N@@gas ain’t shit”. It’s cool though, I’ve been there before.
I met a nice guy not too long ago, he was polite, texted during my normal hours and could hold a decent conversation. Naturally, I made up a number of reasons why I couldn’t pursue him and friend zoned him. As I spent time reflecting I remembered a time when I met a f**k boy who knew just what to say and when to say it to keep me on his line. He was a jerk but I credited his bad behavior as having a personality and swag. I really hope I’m not the only one who has experienced this. For some reason, I am more attracted at the task of turning a guy that isn’t right for me into an upstanding bae citizen than having my Prince Charming from the beginning. My obsession with DIY projects is better spent on Pinterest and at Michael’s because my heart can’t take it anymore. I can literally have a nice guy who meets all of my superficial requirements and still look him over to entertain a dude that wouldn’t spit on me if I was on fire.
As we move into the last three months of the year I want to continue my personal growth, which excludes being nice to these F**k Boys that cause me to want to reclaim my time in the first place. Ladies, for real, stop being nice to these guys! I know it’s hard because a lot of them are fine as hell, I mean half of them are in the beard bang group. Half the time you don’t even know because they are often disguised as caring types. However, I have come the conclusion that theses fools keep trying me because I let them so this is where it stops.
I solemnly promise to be nice to nice guys that shows me consistency and interest in more than the physical things and change my attitude so I can attract the type of relationship I want
… I am really going to stay true to this promise and not let it fall astray like those weight loss goals I set back in January and plan to make again come January 1st.